Lately with the increasing amount of national and international media coverage we have received, I have been getting large numbers of messages on my Facebook account.  Girls from all over the world are writing to ask me to help them find a good “sugar daddy” or a good “man”.  Naturally, I respond by telling them I am not a Millionaire Matchmaker, but rather an online dating entrepreneur.  I then proceed to encourage them to join one of my many websites:  SeekingArrangement.com, SeekingMillionaire.com, and WhatsYourPrice.com.

In response to my online dating sales pitch, these females countered with resistance by telling me they are hesitant to join my dating websites (or any other dating websites for that matter) because they have met some bad apples in the past, namely sugar daddies who do not exhibit “real” sugar daddy qualities.

So, what exactly do I mean by these non-sugar-daddy-like qualities?  Most of the seasoned Sugar Babies are probably well familiar with what these bad apple sugar daddies are like.  They include the fake sugar daddy who claim to be generous by making all sorts of promises he does not plan to keep in order to get into the pants of a potential sugar baby, or the sugar daddy who loves to send out sexually explicit emails with his “indecent proposals” that may sometimes make you want to puke in disgust.  Then there is the sugar daddy who can’t help but to be rude and abusive in his messages because he thinks just because he has money he therefore has the right to go on some power trip. Let’s not forget about the Stalker Daddy who does not understand that no means no.  The list of bad apples does go on and on, and may therefore seem extremely discouraging to some.  (Note:  Bad apples to cut both ways, so while this blog post is about the “Bad Apple Daddy”, it is important for me to state that there are also “Bad Apple Babies”.)

So what’s my response to the “bad apple” excuse for not joining SeekingArrangement.com?

I remind these sugar babies that there are always bad apples among the good apples.  But don’t ever let the bad apples discourage you from finding the good apples.  Bad apples are usually easily within reach, since they’re on the ground having fallen off the apple tree.  The best apples are usually high up in the branches, which means you need to climb up to pick them. Getting a good apple does require hard work.  For this reason it is important to be patient and persistent, and also to learn how to say NO to the bad apples.

There are always bad apple Sugar Daddies around, and SeekingArrangement.com is no exception.  However, we try our very best at SeekingArrangement.com to set our website apart from the hundreds of other Sugar Daddy websites out there by setting a higher standard for what being a Sugar Daddy means.  Just because a person has the monetary means does not make him a Sugar Daddy.  A real Sugar Daddy is generous, a gentleman, always respectful and always seeks to empower others.

In that light, I made the decision a long time ago that SeekingArrangement.com should only attract the best types of members.  While many of our competitors advertise on adult websites, porn sites, and even on escort websites in their quest to attract more Sugar Daddy members, I have refused to follow their examples.  Even though getting traffic from such adult websites may be more profitable for a sugar daddy dating website, it also attracts more bad apple Sugar Daddies whose primary motivation for joining the site is to satisfy their sexual desires.

How to Fend Off the Bad Apples?

So, while I am working hard to attract as many Good Apples to our community, I believe the best protection against any Bad Apple experience is to practice safe dating techniques:

(1) If a sugar daddy or sugar baby member is rude or disrespectful towards you, BLOCK him or her from being able to contact you.  Stop feeling bad about what he or she may have said. Instead, spend your time looking for the Good Apples you’re meant to meet.  If that member has violated the terms of use of the website, please report him or her to us.

(2)  Trust should always be earned, not given up front.  So, use common sense to protect yourself at all times.   To avoid ending up with a Stalker, give out your Voice number instead of your real phone number.  Always meet at a public place and find your own transportation there and back.  The last thing you want is to be stranded without a way to get home.

(3)  Rely on your gut feeling.  If a member is asking you questions that are making you feel uncomfortable, it may be time to move on.  It is never smart to take the risk and put yourself in a dangerous situation.

(4)  Finally, don’t be afraid of saying “NO”.  And always remember that “NO” means “NO”.

When I was a young boy, I had a brown Australian poodle who would not stop humping on the legs of anyone who visited our family.  As innocent as his act may have been, the fact remains that a poodle will always be a poodle… so can you really blame him for behaving the way he was born to behave?

I am sure many of you must have heard of the saying that “all men are dogs”.  As a man myself, I know this saying holds a lot of truth.  However, while all men may be dogs, not all men behave like wild dogs.  I guess that’s the difference between a good dog and a bad dog, and that’s also the difference between a good apple and a bad apple sugar daddy.

And, to all of you Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies who are Good Apples.  Thank you for setting a good example for all of us to follow, and thank you for making our Sugar Community a much better place to be.

Have you met a bad apple Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby on the website?

Has the experience discouraged you in any way?

Do you have any suggestions on how to deal with such bad apple Sugar Daddies or Babies?